Monday 29 September 2014

School Holiday Fun with the Cousins!

Jeanette, Janai and Hiram came to not only came to visit us these school holidays but actually stayed for a few nights. We all had an amazing time eating junk food, playing games, watching movies, slumbering in the lounge room, jumping on the trampoline getting our nails done, playing the wii and sipping spiders at our favorite cafe. 

 It was fun and exciting getting to know the kids again after not seeing them for around 5 years. 

They really opened up to me with many issues impacting their lives and I will continually be praying for each of them individually and as a whole. They are all so individually unique and beautiful in their own ways I thoroughly enjoyed hearing their hearts and being able to share with them things I'd been wanting to tell them for a long time now. It was so good to be able to be open and honest to them and just enjoy them for who they now are. They are all so different to how I remember them but in small ways some things about them will never change. 



I love my nieces and nephew and look forward to making many more moments and memories with

them in the near future..
If your reading this Jeanette, Janai and Hiram, 
Aunty loves you guys so so much!!
I'm only ever a phone call away..
Praying for you guys..
See you all again soon..
xx


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Thursday 18 September 2014

An Answered Prayer

Family.

What does it look like to you? 

The closest thing to I have seen to what I would call a family unit was found in my second last foster home.. 

The family home was very structured. Came together for meals. Prayed together. Went to church together. They were genuinely interested in hearing what the other members of the family did with their days. They laughed together often. Found comfort in one another in hard times. Would resolve conflict then and there and were always prepared to say sorry and forgive. But most of all, were open to hearing how they could better your time in their home.

To me that's what a family looks like.

As a mother now I aim high when it comes to being a good parent. I try to provide all my childrens needs and not wants. I listen to their days, talk about mine and we are very open and honest to each other daily. Even when it's hard. I have an emotional connection with each of my kids and love them both very much. I am strong in disciplining them though they know what I expect from them. 

One of the biggest lessons I have learned during motherhood is to advise simple and reachable expectations according to their ages. Know what they can and can't do, may or may not do, want to or dont want to do and clearly show them the right way (what you expect of them) of doing it.

You'll hear me say things like..

"Now, when we get to the shops we need bread, milk and tissues." - Clear expectations

"You have two choices" - Unpleasant or Pleasant (and follow through)

"We need to brush our teeth now" - Sometimes the word "we" works better than "you"

"That was very rude, would you like to try that again?" - Correction

But the one I say most (Jie will tell you) is..

"We all need to make our own choices. Some are easy and some are hard. Even Mums sometimes make bad choices. What you need to do is decide to make good choices in your life. As Jesus did"

Choices comes up a lot in our conversations. My kids now say things like "Was that a good choice?" to each other all the time. We sometimes may not have a lot of choices, but we always have at least two.

Togetherness is another key word. We do everything either together or for each other. If someone asks for something politely than it is given to them. That's just how it goes. It's okay to do for yourself in certain situations but for the most part we do for each other.

Family is a wonderful thing. I love being a mother and raising my children in a home where my kids know how much I love them and value their opinions, values and wise choices. I guess in a broken family like my own it's nice to have had that short time with that one christian foster family who taught me righteous living.

As you saw in my previous post my Uncle got married last Sunday. It was the first time I had seen most of my family since I was 11 or 12 years old. I have little to no memories of them ever being in my life. But the memories I do have of them are precious. Memories of a Christmas party we attended one year. Of a stew my great grandmother cooked. A backyard full of a beautiful garden with beer can windmills around every corner. I also remember having to act a certain way. Dress a certain way, speak only when spoken to and address them respectfully even when disrespected. Although they are my family I have never felt as though I fit in to their lives.  

Regardless, it was nice to be around my family and to feel like I actually have one of my own. Even just for a day. It was an emotional time afterwards. All I had ever wanted growing up was a family, to love and accept me. I did find that love, exception and support in my Nana (Mums Mum) before she passed away five years ago. But I don't think I'll ever have that again. I have never hated my family, I guess you can't hate people you hardly know and who hardly know you. I just think we are all very different, My Uncle and my Pop have always been my favorites. Uncle Shane and I have always had a great relationship and being the only Christians in the family we share that connection. Dad is so close to Pop, they are alike in so many ways so I can totally be myself around him. The women in the family I feel as if they look down at me. Like I don't measure up. I try to be myself and connect with them but they are so shut and short. I love my family, they are a part of my genetic being and the people who raised my Dad into the father he is today. I love that I was invited to such a wonderful family event after all these years and got the privilege of seeing my Uncle so happy. God really is amazing at surprise blessings. Being able to worship beside them and just hug my great grandmother again was so meaningful. It was an answer to prayer seeing everyone again. So thankful.



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Monday 15 September 2014

The Ultimate Wedding


 Yesterday, the 14th of September 2014 my Uncle married the love of his life in a sweet little chapel at Mount Evelyn. The wedding was short but intimate with the guests made up of close friends and family. I can honestly say that I have never seen my Uncle so happy. Uncle Shane is the only other Christian in our family and his love for the Lord shone throughout the ceremony with prayer, scripture readings and songs of praise including "Amazing Grace" sung by all. The vows were beautiful and honest and rings were exchanged before Uncle shane leaned his beautiful wife back with a very romantic and unforgettable kiss.  

The atmosphere was quite friendly and relaxed before we headed to the maroon room for lunch. The maroon room was absolutely stunning, very elegant and just beautiful. For someone who doesn't get out often I was quite surprised when I knew which knives, forks and glasses to use. I even found myself helping Dad who was sitting beside me looking a little lost with so many options. 
The menu's were thoughtfully and wonderfully put together.
The food was delightful and surprisingly filling.

The wedding cake was the most expensive cake I've ever seen in my life but highlight of my day was the bride and groom's first dance which I was lucky enough to catch on video (see below). It really was like a fairy tale as they danced closely.

Dad and I got up for a dance which too was just as special to me. 

 The speeches were so amusing, fun and witty. I could see the wonderful friend Uncle Shane had in his best man. They're vibrant personalities bounced off each other. Friends like that are rare and a real blessing to ones life. 

A lot of photos of the newly wed couple were taken around the grounds including in front of a beautiful fireplace. The photographers did a fabulous job at capturing their incredibly romantic-al day! I loved the snapshots of Uncle Shane posing. I loved seeing the fun side of him.

But the real fun was saved for the dance floor after our meals. Everyone was so full of life - Dancing, enjoying life and celebrating the marriage of two of of God's most precious souls. Lots of fun songs (including The Chicken Dance + Gangnum Style) and bad dance moves had us all in fits of laughter. 

It truly was the most fairy tale like wedding I could have ever imagined. I still cannot believe my Uncle is actually married. He is so happy and so full of life, I'm overjoyed at the thought of him sharing his days with someone he cares so much about.

Congratulations Uncle Shane..
And welcome to the family Aunty Mayuree!









Ephesians 5:2 NLT
Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God
God's richest blessings to you both.
xx
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Tuesday 9 September 2014

FODMAP Friendly Salmon + Sweet Potato Fish Cakes

Here is a fantastic, yummy, simple and easy recipe the whole family will love! This recipe is Fructose Free, Sugar Free, Dairy Free, Wheat Free, FODMAP Friendly, Gluten Free, Onion Free, Garlic Free and Lactose Free!! Share it with friends and/or family members, pin it to your pinterest board or add it to your recipe book! Enjoy and your welcome ;)

Ingredients:

415g can of Salmon, drained
500g Sweet Potato, boiled and mashed
1 egg, beaten
1 dill cucumber, grated
1 cup cheese, grated

Plain (Gluten Free) flour
Olive Oil

Method:

Drain salmon and lightly flake.
Combine salmon with the rest of the ingregients in a large bowl.
Roll into balls and lightly coat in plain flour.
Pan fry in onlive oil until golden brown and cripsy.



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Monday 8 September 2014

Father's Day Done..

So I saw a post yesterday by someone I follow on instagram which really encouraged me to write more. To share anything and everything. So here I am at 1am writing without really knowing what it is I want to write about.

The last three days I have been sick with flue like symptoms. Yesterday it really knocked me for six. I spent most of my day sucking on Strepsils and sleeping. I did get 4 loads of washing done between conciseness and unconsciousness which I bought in today and is still sitting on the couch ready to be folded. I made sure the kids spent some time outside in the sunshine while I made myself a big bowl of roast potatoes to munch on after 2pm. The kids were winding each other up and all I could think about was mowing the lawns again. I hate it when it gets too long. But my body wasn't working for me. Hot and cold sweats. Sore throat. Weak. It was hopeless even thinking about everything that needed doing. I settled for an early night.

Today I felt a lot better than yesterday. I had an amazing sleep in which cost me a packed of corn chips which isn't bad in comparison to this time last year when Nevaeh would eat all the school snacks, any lollies or chocolate and biscuits. A packet of corn chips was worth the sleep in!

So 11am I woke up. Listened to hear who was up. No Wii noise meant that Jie was still asleep but the Radio was on and the rattling of a chip packet gave Nevaeh away! I turned over to reach for my phone. I checked the time, then my instagram (my obsession) and checked the weather. I called my Dad. He answered pretty much straight away. I loved that. I love him wanting me to call him. lthough he fathered my sister and brother I am the only one giving him a call today. We spoke a little. He was eating KFC while reading the paper. He made a few comments about the sports section and we said goodbye. Short and sweet is how we did it this year. 

I layed in bed a little longer and Nevaeh came in to snuggle. "Good morning Mum! Did you have a good sleep?" she said the way she always says it. I just snuggled her. I felt like I could sleep for days. I smelt the corn chips and she came clean straight away. Jie must have heard us chatting because he yelled out "Good morning Mum!" from his room. Knowing there was no milk.. or bread.. or cereal for Nevaeh I had to get up and organize a shopping list. 

Nevaeh called her father.

Jie dressed himself wearing board shorts for the first time since last summer. Nevaeh put on a dress and her fairy wings before scurrying around the house for her purse. She barely had $1 in change but she liked being a big girl. I found something to throw on and after looking in the mirror I needed make up to cover up the bags under my eyes.

We left the house after 12pm. I called Matt last minute to see if he wanted to catch up and have lunch at the park. Because shopping was on my to-do list we settled on fish 'n chips. Plus it's my Dad's favorite food so it was perfect for this beautiful Fathers Day afternoon. Matt whinged a little before finally accepting.
Nevaeh and her Daddy!
We met him at the end of the street. Nevaeh ran up to him giving him his Fathers Day gifts. I didn't realize how hard it was to be nice to someone so cold and nasty. I've changed. With no respect shown to me or my son I found myself snapping at him over little antagonizing comments. The separation and talk of divorce has changed me. Although he is Nevaeh's Dad he hasn't earnt that title these past 2 years. He is merely any type of support to her or me as he mother. I dont know, I just feel completely alone in raising her especially since her diagnosis. Her dietary requirements are costing me $130+ a week but he is still paying just $49 a month. I don't see how that's fair..

Well the few hours I had in mind of her spending time with her Dad was short lived when he called his Mum just 10 minutes of being at the park. I guess I was expecting a little more from him but again I seemed to expect too much. Although I have expectations of him Nevaeh seems to be happy with him walking in and out of her life the way he does. She was not at all fussed that he was leaving. She loves her daddy so much I guess I just want more from him for her. But I want him to want to be there for her. And do it!

We got around to shopping with this week/fortnights shopping (food) bill coming to $180. 

I made a roast for dinner. Nevaeh helped me make pork balls, chocolate muffins and fruit sticks for play lunches this week for school and kinder. I also prepped 6 jars of salad for myself for this week! Before bed we cleaned a little. Jie cleaned and vacuumed his room, Nevaeh helped sort her toys out and clean her room. Beds were made, books were read and the kids both fell asleep straight away.
A box of little people, her train set, playing babies and animals!
I have since spoke to a friend, done the dishes and cleaned the kitchen and lounge room and thought I'd squeeze a blog post in. And so I did.

Amongst all of this today, Nevaeh managed to paint the cats nails bright pink. Jie bought a new wii game, Nevaeh and I danced to our favorite songs, I had a chat with two good friends, I sent Dad and extra special text message, I bought myself a new pair of shoes and listened to a sermon. 

My new shoes!

I'm now off to bed! My work her is done!

HAPPY FATHERS DAY DADS! xx


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Tuesday 2 September 2014

Every Little Girls Dream..

 A beautiful one of a kind princess (table) castle made out of sheets, doona covers and pillow cases. With a wise owl as the doorman and a broomstick flag pole, Nevaeh had it all yesterday as she read to her little friends inside her very own comfy cosy castle..




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Monday 1 September 2014

Sunday Funday!

  A Mum and Son Day!

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